Plastic smiles

It is amazing how as a generation we have mastered the art of disguise. Scientists who believe in evolution say as species evolve they learn more sophisticated skills of survival. Human beings we have learnt many things but that which I find intriguing for me is how we have learnt to balance incongruence between the inner feeling and one’s behavior. Perhaps we lean this from our childhood era when we are told to deny food from neibhours and strangers. Regardless of how hungry we were as children, when invited by our neibhours to a meal, would slide our tongue swiftly and proficiently not to be noticed and put up a genuine- like smile and speak with confidence, “Thank you sir but am full, just had something before I came”. Over the years of our growth we master the art and express it in other spheres, generally meaning, having developed adults with strongly deceiving capabilities. So here we are, and I am sadly one of you – the generation of today. We can say thank you and plaster it with the facial attributes that goes with the expression, when we don’t mean it at all. We can say welcome, feel at home, when our insides hate and don’t want to entertain the visitors. We can say I love you sincerely, when we just want to use the person. My question is what kind of the world we are building when we are all masters of disguise with plastic smiles.

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